A general poll - for chicks mostly

[jeanvieve]

Okay gals. This is a litmus test of a concept I mulled over for years. It was sourced in things like my mother always being the one to flush the goldfish, hold us when we sobbed over the dead cats, our first school day crushes that were crushed in turn by life and circumstances. And perhaps it is a stereotype, of woman the caregiver.

It deals with generalities. I expect you all will know shining exceptions to the rule, stay home daddies etc. But:

Do you, in your heart and mind and based on experiences you personally have, believe that men as a general rule are emotional cowards?

Not physical, not how well they dare to face bombs and bullets and will race to the building to pull out the screaming baby. I have nothing but deep respect and admiration for the bravery of the male race, when it is their life on the line.

But when it is their feelings? Or the feelings/tears of others?

Lay it on me. Have men grown bold and modern, capable of dealing with death and pain and sorrow while I wasn't looking? I wait upon your words to determine if I should review my convictions.

Comments

[balutakat.livejournal.com]

It's interesting that I will plan for virtually every possible disaster and reaction that I can imagine to the point of paranoia, but frequently only plan for logical reactions and not "illogical" or emotional ones and freak out when they happen because I have no plan for them. Maybe that's the glitch? I've learned to plan for logical men, but not for emotional ones? Lukewarm emotional reactions can throw me much worse than nasty logical ones.

I do think women are better at learned emotional behavior. Maybe too good at it (you can bend us like a vine and we just keep growing in that direction, right?) in a way. I think of men as getting like bonsai, every time they get a nip they stunt themselves a little more. heh.

[balutakat.livejournal.com]

Oh and I don't know about that self-torture bit - I've always loved the challenge of getting a Stone Man gaga over me, even though those relationships were completely boring and doomed in the long run (made for yummy sexy stuff). Isn't that normal (HA HA)!